The Real Reason People Aren’t Doing What They Love

Woman_looking_out_window_copyright_DoriStaehleDo you know people who really hate their jobs or who want to start a business but can’t seem to make a move?  If so, you’ve probably heard the following excuses:

–   There aren’t any jobs out there.

–    I’d never be able to replace my income.

–    I’m too old to make any changes or try something new.

–     I’ve been out of work (or home with the kids) for so long, who would want to hire me?

–    This is all I know.

–     I don’t have the money to do what I want to do.

–     I just don’t have time to figure this all out.

–     I wouldn’t know where to start.

The real issue that’s behind all these excuses is one little word that carries a whole lot of power: FEAR.  It triggers our stress responses and makes us want to retreat.  It’s interesting how many people will actually put up with an awful work environment or stay underemployed or unemployed. Fear of the unknown is leaving them frozen in place.

Shifting_sand_copyright_DoriStaehleShifting Sands

When I was a young hot shot, I enjoyed doing things that women generally didn’t do or that people said I couldn’t do.  This applied to both sports and business. In my day, women weren’t supposed to be good at either.  My mission in life was to prove people wrong.

However, something happens as you age, especially to women. No, I’m not talking about menopause; I’m talking about losing confidence.  I thought it was just something that happened to those of us who left the corporate world to raise the kids but it appears to be universal.

It was bad enough when I agreed to take an entry-level position in 2009 for almost the same salary as I made in 1985.  That was when the recession hit and everyone was running for cover.  I took the job and didn’t even negotiate. I had an MBA and 2 small businesses. What happened?

What happens is that women discount their gifts and talents. They take jobs that are beneath their abilities for pay that is abysmal or they work for free!  They lose sight of their dreams and listen to the voices in their heads that tell them that they are not good enough.  The thought of starting a business is either not on their radar or it’s just too overwhelming.

The Rise of the Entrepreneur

Small businesses have been the backbone of this country for generations. Given the high levels of unemployment in not only the US but abroad, many are considering this route.

Right now, there are twice as many entrepreneurs over 50 than under 25. We’re not ready to retire. We have valuable gifts and talents to share. If no one will hire us, then why not start a business?

Women are entering the world of entrepreneurship in record numbers. In fact, 2014 has been called a breakout year for female entrepreneurs. I left that job in favor of entrepreneurship and you can too! It’s time to rise up!

Fortune_cookie_copyright_DoriStaehleOvercoming the Fear Factor

Nothing in life is certain. The job you have today could be gone tomorrow. Isn’t t it time to finally live your life the way you want?

Nothing will change if you do nothing. If you want change in your life, you have to take action and get ready to rock!

If you’d like more info on how you can get started NOW, click here for a complimentary consult.

Dori_RockerChick_jacket2013Dori Staehle is the owner and Chief Encouragement Officer at Rock the Next StageThis is her third business. She helps people create businesses that rock and lives that they love. She also plays percussion in a band and teaches hand drumming for health, healing, and stress relief.

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