Are You in the Right Place?

woman-frustrated_PhotobucketHave you ever taken a job, joined an organization, or started a business only to realize it wasn’t a good fit? The question is: Do you stay or do you go?

I’ve had many “It seemed like a good idea at the time” moments. However, problems will arise if something starts to feel out of alignment with my personality, experience, or my values.

How do you know when something isn’t in alignment? Nothing lines up properly and it eventually gets very stressful – and painful. Stress causes all sorts of physical and emotional issues and can make you really cranky and not much fun to be around. Stress can also make you spacey, forgetful, and make you appear to have ADHD.

The Big Questions

If your life isn’t what you imagined, maybe it’s time for some soul-searching. Ask yourself:

1) Is this where I really want to be at this stage of my life?
2) Is this the best use of my talents and creativity?
3) Does this seem like a good fit?
4) If money were no object, what would I do?

When I discovered drum therapy, I knew in my heart that it could help so many people get unstuck, reduce or eliminate ADHD symptoms, reduce stress, and help people suffering from depression, as well as chronic pain. Plus, it’s fun!

A couple of years ago, I was invited to do a drumming demonstration at a health fair. A man in a wheelchair with multiple disabilities approached me. He had difficulty speaking, so his wife translated. He asked me question #4.

“I want to create a business where I can use drumming to help people heal,” I responded.
“Why don’t you?” was his reply.

Good question! I countered with the pat answer of “not enough time and money”. However, I’ve come to realize that those are just excuses and where there’s a will, there’s a way. This man was a motivational speaker, so what was my excuse?

Photo credit: Julianna Roldan
Photo credit: Julianna Roldan

Jason Damico
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Photo Credit: Julianna Roldan

Honoring Your Creativity

It’s a shame that our society doesn’t honor talent and creativity. If anyone seems outside the norm, especially if it’s a student, our answer is to label and medicate him or her. So, creatives try to conform but later realize that conforming comes with a price. The alignment gets worse, as does the pain and emptiness and feeling that you just don’t fit in.

The answer, as I have discovered, is to honor your creativity and find your tribe. I know many people who finally left the corporate world or a boring job and made their hobby a full-time business. And they love it! They are also very busy! They are honoring the gifts that God gave them and are therefore fulfilling their purpose.

Local artist Dan Campbell and photographers Jennifer Kidd and Edalisse Hirst have made the switch and are doing what they love. When I first met and booked Jason Damico (photo above), I think he was all of 15. This young blues prodigy is now so busy with his music and acting careers, he’s hard to keep track of!

Combining coaching, drumming, and guest speaking in one business is unusual but those are my passions. What are yours?

Are you honoring your talent and creativity? Feel free to leave a comment below!

Dori_Photo_300Dori Staehle is the Chief Encouragement Officer and Rhythm Maker at Rock the Next Stage. She helps speakers, solopreneurs, and creatives with ADHD issues take their talent or their business to the next stage. Dori is a business and success coach, speaker, and drum therapist. She also play Latin percussion in a band and teaches a class called “Find Your Song and Sing It!” at the local community college. If you’d like to book Dori for speaking, coaching, or drumming events, click here.

2 thoughts on “Are You in the Right Place?

  1. What a great blog post Dori. So much to think about in this one. I have been in that rut for many years and I am moving in the direction towards something I enjoy and I’m good at.
    Many of people quit when they find out their dreams still consist of hard work. But why quit, you’re going to work one way or another. You might as well work doing something you enjoy.

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