Daily Archives: November 20, 2013

Listen to Your Heart: Discovering and Doing What You Love

heart_balloon_PhotobucketIf you’ve stayed home to raise your kids, chances are you never really gave much thought to what you want to do with your life once they’re grown and gone. Let’s face it, you didn’t have time.

So let me ask you: If someone gave you a blank check to use to do whatever you’ve always wanted to do, what would you choose?

Some of you just had an idea pop into your mind. Others are admittedly stumped. Some have too many ideas and don’t know what to start with. So how do you decide what you want to be when you grow up?

Listen to Your Heart

Making money is great but if you choose a job, business, or career for that reason only, chances are you won’t feel happy or fulfilled. Why not? You listened to your head and not your heart.

Your heart tells you what excites you, what you feel passionate about, what matters, and what’s truly important to you.  Creativity is also a heart thing. Yes, you’re using your brain and your imagination but it goes much deeper than that, almost to the soul level.

Moms tend to give things up and put them on the back burner when they have kids. We use the excuse that we just don’t have the time or the money or that it’s a frivolous idea or activity.

You think it doesn’t matter but it does. How do I know? Because sooner or later there will be a trigger and you’ll cry when you least expect it. This is what happened to me.

 My “Aha!” Moment

I was in a freak accident 2 years ago, causing me to quit my job and the band I was in. I play Latin percussion. Think Sheila E. without the 6-inch stilettos. I also used to book large concerts featuring local bands, but those were eliminated due to city budget cuts.  I then tried to resurrect my educational services company but my heart wasn’t in it.

I was able to sit and drum, so I obtained certifications in drum therapy and therapeutic drumming. I’ve got tons of African drums and percussion instruments, so I decided to combine that with the coaching. Not many people get the drumming for stress relief thing yet so I’m not drumming as much as I would like.  I didn’t think much of it until a song came on the car radio last week and tears started streaming down my face.

It was a tune that the band I was in used to play. I then realized how much I missed the band members and playing in the band. A part of my creativity was lost and I felt incomplete. Music simply has to be in my life.

After months of swimming and strengthening exercises, I think I can once again stand and drum.  And then, something unexpected happened. I received an email from the band: “We have an opening for a percussionist. Are you ready to play?”

I decided to listen to my heart. I said yes. Don’t worry, I’m not quitting my day job.  😉

What have you always wanted to do? Feel free to leave a comment below.

Dori_RockerChick_jacket2013Dori Staehle is the owner and Chief Encouragement Officer at Rock the Next StageShe helps people find and use their passion and creativity to create lives that they love and a business that rocks.

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